Well, it's been a hell of a week. My friend passed away two days ago. And this isn't the only friend I've lost in the last few months. Another one died after getting an infection while undergoing cancer treatments. Shit. This life thing is difficult and hard. His wife has asked me if I would officiate the funeral. Why not? He was a good friend and he never judged me by what I did.
Actually, we met a long time ago as he was one of my clients at a club I was working at. I never did lap dances for him or anything...he was older than me too. But after he'd been in a few times, I met him outside of work for a drink and we really connected. As friends. I mean I was married at the time. This was when I used to live in Miami (another long story). Anyway, he taught me how to handicap horses (this was his job at the time...a handicapper with the track before he retired). Anyway, we used to go down to the track and it was so much fun to see how he did it. We often won too. It was a looong ass time before he finally got around to telling his wife he'd befriended a stripper. And she wasn't exactly thrilled about our friendship either. But we continued being friends, I even met his daughter (who became a friend too). Some years went by, I lost my husband, moved to Panama City and his family moved to North Carolina... But we kept in touch.
So I'm going back at the end of the week to officiate his funeral. My first one. I'm super nervous and now I'm going to sit down with Jimmy and figure out how to do this. Maybe there are tutorials on line? So yeah, my first debut as a Universal Life Minister...and it's a funeral of one of my best friends.
Any suggestions? He wasn't strictly Christian, but he did believe in God and an afterlife.... Which is something I'm starting to question.
5 comments:
Wow. You have had a rough week! Since your friend liked horses and racing...maybe you could make the wake specific to that and have someone scatter his ashes (I'm just assuming he's being creamated) from horseback. And make what you say more for the family than anything. Sounds like they trust your judgement. I'm betting you'll make your friend proud with your officiating...
I'm sorry about your friend...but I just have to say I really disapprove of a stripper doing the Lord's work. God did NOT put you on this earth to defile your body and your soul this way. Please know that if you accept Jesus as Lord and Savoir, you might be able to save yourself. I feel very sorry for you when I read this blog. You are a sinner and you need to accept Jesus now.
I agree that scattering his ashes in a meaningful place would be great. Let each person at the funeral say a few words about him and scatter some ashes as they finish, or in private thoughts, scattering when finished. If it is a traditional funeral, again a few words said by those who wish, maybe finishing by holding hands around the casket and saying good bye.
Ignore the God botherers' comments; you know those of us at ULC are behind you 100%.
Lynn and LA Brother-
Thanks for the support and ideas. I can use it right now. I have to say, the whole convert now message is a bit of a turn off when it comes to Jesus. The way they pray on your fear is a low tactic I think...
Gayle- if you think I'm defiling God, then you can suck it!
You can tell me to "suck it" all you want you whore....but Jesus knows who the wicked are and those in pursuite of the truth. May the Lord have mercy on you. "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people." - Ephesians 5:3-7
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